Not dating for years
You can stay in your pajamas and watch chick flicks on Netflix, or you can get up early and run non-stop all day. The longer you wait, the more scared you are to enter the dating world, especially if you were married a long time and enjoyed the comfort and security of a loving relationship.
The thought of fielding pick-up lines from guys at bars can make you hyperventilate.
Since then, I’ve been on a few dates here and there, made out with a few guys here and there, but aside from those sporadic and fruitless encounters (albeit fun ones), I’ve been “independently single.” And I’m beginning to freak out about it. Once, I began chatting casually with a guy I was interested in, and he was shocked to hear I’d been single for a year. Are we all expected to be constantly dating/casually dating someone at all times? So when I do meet guys, talk, hang out, what-have-you, they’re always surprised at my lack of dating life, should they become aware of it. But there is something wrong in expecting to meet someone without putting in any effort, which is my current preferred dating habit.
My relative lack of dating experience has left me feeling too insecure about it, unfortunately. 😉 Silencing that annoying, insecure inner 15-year-old is sometimes hard to do.
Post-split, I reveled in the freedom and peace a single life can have, when you’re actively aloof to the attentions of men.
I know that if someone didn’t separate the laundry, or if they loaded the dishwasher incorrectly, or if they didn’t clean the kitchen the same way I do, I’d get ticked off. my way.) I was talking to my hairdresser and comparing notes on bad dates. Wait long enough to grieve and get your act together, then jump right in before you become a bitter old cat lady like me. Your Facebook name, profile photo and other personal information you make public on Facebook (e.g., school, work, current city, age) will appear with your comment.
I think it’s important to take time to heal from divorce.
People need time to adjust to the major changes that divorce brings: different living situations, moving, financial struggles, and having to share time with your kids. It’s the death of your hopes, dreams, and beliefs that you will spend the rest of your life with your spouse. It’s wise to wait a year or so, so that you can evaluate your life, take inventory of who you are, change the things about you that you don’t like, and discover what exactly you’re looking for in a partner.